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My name is Cali, and I've been told I am a good advice-giver.

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My best friend of 5 years is Tom. Tom has always been there for me, and he's a really great guy. I (being a girl) have developed some feelings for him. Tom liked me a year ago, but I sort of just ignored that; we were still close friends. This year things are different, and I feel like I want to be with him.

He likes this girl Amber who he met a couple months ago, but we are still close friends. I'm jealous,quite frankly. Tom asked Amber on a few dates, but she turned him down. They hooked up (just kissing) and presumabely she likes him? Yet they are not going out.

I want to tell Tom that I have feelings for him, but I don't want to tread on anyone's feet. Amber is not the nicest of girls, but either way, I'm not sure if it's the best idea to suddenly drop a bomb like that on him.

I almost feel like he's just with Amber because it's just someone to like, you know? Maybe if I told him how I feel, he'll realize he likes me too...

I have no clue what to do. :/


16/f

You should tell him how you feel. The worst thing is to keep your emotions inside. Just bring it up and let what happens, happen. Let him know how you feel and ask him what his opinions are on a relationship between the two of you. If he doesn't think it's a good idea or if he isn't sure, don't rush him. You two are good friends, so everything should work out.
-16/f

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much.
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