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Age: 25
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I'm male, nearly 30.
For half my life I've been chasing girls and from asking God for a girlfriend to crying in the shower, I've tried it all.
I've been on dates, but none of the women I have been interested in, likes me back (more than a friend, your such a NICE guy... I know that one off by heart). Its really frustrating to be 30 and to know only rejection from women, obviously at this stage I'm so insecure that the last time I liked this chick I totally started to stutter really badly when I thought about trying to kiss her.
I don't try to screw anything that moves, if I'm not interested in a women, I don't make moves on them and have no problem talking to them.
I'm really low and I need advice, not comfort. (link)
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I can relate. The dating world is really tough out there. I have and still am going through it.
Most people might say, "Don't look for love, let it come to you. It's when your not looking that you find it."
I hate that phrase because it's not realistic. Love is all around. On TV shows, in movies and everywhere you look. It's hard not to think about being single and wanting to be in love. A lot of times, you can't help but seek love everywhere you go.
Having said that, here is my advice to you: Try your best to not let the bad dates get to you. COnsider each female and each date as it's own isolated moment. The worst thing you can do is get insecure about it or let it get you down. BECAUSE, confidence radiates. Many people are attracted to others who have high self-confidence and who are secure with themselves. You must show that.
If you are noticing that EVERY women you are interested in, doesn't like you back, you need to either re-look at the "type" of women you go for or change the way you act towards them. Try not to fall into the "friend" role. DOn't be overly nice because sometimes, as bad as it sounds, nice guys finish last.
Try to venture outside your comfort zone. Meaning, sign up for classes in art, fitness or wherever your interests lie. Go to new places and try to network as much as possible. The larger your circle of friends are, the better your chances will be.
Focus on things that make you happy. There are SO many perks to being single. Write them down and remind yourself about it each time you feel down.
Asking God and crying in the shower will do nothing but give you false hope. Make moves on your own and never let yourself settle for anything less than what you deserve. IT will come. Good luck!
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Rating: 5
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one mistake you made... nice guys always finish last.
thanks
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