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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

The relationship I have with my bestfriend Adam is... Diffrent. I really like him, and everyone says we'd make a cute couple, but I'm ugly.
And don't be like oo don't call yourself that no your not.. yes I am. I have naturally curly hair that everyone says they want but it's uncontrolible..and I have discoloration on my neck, armpits, and in between my legs (not IN, but around) not that anyone can see that, but they can my neck and it looks like hardcore dirt but it's not I have Acanthosis Negracans. And it's because im fat. And im not talking a little over-weight, I weight 220 and im 14. and its not portioned on my body.. it's all in my gut!I look like in pegante! Im gross and I do like Adam but I don't get my hopes up with anything. I hate everypart of my body not madder how many times anyone says im pretty. Im not and they're just trying to make me feel better.Pity Me.
Well a couple days ago Adam called me fat. Me&Steven were like attacking eachother when Adam yelled "WATCH OUT BUS IS COMING!!!" and I like broke down.. First I kicked him in the nuts and he tumbled.. and we were gunnago to the dance as friends so he said "Wow, is this how you treat all your dates??" and i laughed and him I said "You must think a lot of yourself if you think I'll even talk to you!" and walked away. and it fealt so good to stick up for myself but i cried all night. I am fat and I dont wanna be but it's so hard, my parents are never home, they never listen to me and it feels like the only time im happy is when im eating (ive been to a theripist and thats what she said.) and when my parents are always argueing and i cant to anything right. I've tried making myself vomit, but nooo it hurt soo bad id rather be the wall i am then have my throat hurt like that. But with Adam he said he was sorry, but he thinks its like a free card. He doesnt mean it! So I told him to leave me alone, it's not going to work your always making fun of me.. and he called me like 20 times that night and my Dad was all why dont u just talk to him.. but im wasnt about to tell him so i just took a long bath until all the icecream was gone (and people wonder why im fat) I broke mirrors, cried until my eyes burned.. and the whole day after that my skin was blotchy, it was obvois i'd been crying and Adam wouldn't leave me alone saying he was sorry. And yes I know people will think im being harsh but hes wasnt the first time making fun of me.. Then when we became talking again we startd hanging out, but i never actually forgave him and i rold him i didnt like him joking about me and he said he would stop and he has. Well last ight my Mom left again for her buseness and my Dad got drunk and i couldnt handle it so I left.. and I walked like a mile dieing, having an asthma attach *I DONT HAVE ASTHMA THO* to Adams house and we just talked. It was fun but should i say im sorry?? to him because I hoe he'll stop because im like 80 pounds overweight, adn im tall for my age. IM HUGGEE so i was wondering should I consider diet pills?
Its getting to cold to start walking and Im not going to ask my parents for a treadmill! I do have an Ablonge tho and I want this gone by next summer. I want my whole gut gone! I wanna be able to wear a bikini or something for the first time in my whole life.. and If i lose weight my discoloration in my neck will go away.then there wont be anything wrong with me.
My Goal= Be able to see my toes.
and be able to shop at like Areopostale and not have people think"why is that fatass shopping here? Like she can even fit in these cloths. Which I cant..
Anything is helpful. I need to go on a diet and i want it gone by summer.. but i dont want like saggy-skin GROSS.
I have Thick Thighs, and stomach but my arms and calf (my calfs mustcle i need ot to lug my ass around.. and my arms are tiny. I dont have a double chin.. its my Stomach mostly no ally.. i want to just eat salads, workout and that's it.
But i dont wanna go hungry. which sounds stupid I know bu i cant sleep hungry I cant even fall asleep hungry..
Anything will be helpful.

Just a little advice about Adam, I would give him another chance. He is trying to apologize, after all. If it happens again though, I wouldn't talk to him anymore.

As for losing weight, there are plenty of ways to go about it without going hungry. I'm assuming that you're not used to dieting, so you should start off small. Pick 3-5 unhealthy foods/drinks that you have on a daily basis and CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. When I decided to lose some weight, all I did was stop drinking regular pop, eating french fries, and I didn't have any ice cream. I didn't exercise or change anything else and I lost 7 pounds within a few weeks. Start with something small like that to boost your confidence and get yourself started.

It's great that you have an AB lounge. Definitely use it at least once a day. Start off at using it for 15 minutes and then try to increase one minute every day. That will really help get rid of the excess fat in your stomach. There are also exercise tapes you can get for the winter months (I know they are cheesy, but they work; plus no one has to know that you use them except you). My favorite exercise tapes are "Walk Away the Pounds." You basically walk 1-3 miles in one place and do various exercises with weights. It really works.

DO NOT EAT OR DRINK ANYTHING EXCEPT WATER AFTER 7:00 PM!!! I cannot stress this enough! Any food eaten after that time will become fat simply because your body does not burn as many calories at that time of the day. DO NOT SKIP MEALS OR STARVE YOURSELF IN ANY WAY!!! If you do this, your metabolism will slow way down and will actually cause you to gain weight. If you are hungry, go ahead and indulge in a healthy snack.

Healthy snacks could be some carrot sticks and low fat ranch, some low fat yogurt, a handful of pretzels, some wheat crackers, a handful of cheese cubes, celery with a small amount of peanut butter, fruit, etc. The possibilities are endless as long as you don't reach for potato chips or cookies.

Next time you are feeling sad and reach for that pint of ice cream, think "Why am I upset? What is bothering me?" Now, instead of indulging your feelings in junk food, throw all that energy into working out. Every time your catch yourself eating just because you're upset or bored, go do some sit-ups, use your AB lounge, jog in place, or do ANYTHING that involves you being active.

I'm not sure if you're interested, but a really fun workout is DDR. I spent a whole summer playing it without changing any of my eating habits and I lost 20 pounds.

I know you can do this, you just have to focus on channeling your passion for food into passion for health. Good luck and let me know if you need any more help!

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(Rating: 5) thanks!!
haha i will update you in the NEAR future.. and i know i eat because im bored, im not sure doing sit-ups will fill the void but it's worth a shot!=D lol I'll try and catch myself with thats!
Thanks for everything else sooooo much
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