Okay, this is rather long, I'm sorry.
I'm currently dating this guy, we've been together for about a little more than half a year, maybe about two months more. But recently, his ex came back into the city. They were together, two years ago but then they broke up and she left for Penn, (or at least this is what his friend told me) But anyways, it has been really awkward knowing that she is in our same school and she is his ex. I guess everything would be okay- I could live with it if she didn't happen to be living with him as well. Because her parents and his parents are very close friends and since they just moved back and they didn't seem to find a house to settle down in, they are living in my boyfriends house...which is extremely awkward because when I go over to his house, I see her and it just, I guess annoys me or makes me jealous to see her? Since she apparently spends a lot more time with him than I do. But that isn't the biggest problem, it is the fact that she confronted to me and said that she stilled liked my boyfriend and she had decided to try and win him back. And I don't know- she seems to have the upper side since she is pretty, intelligent and everything and I'm really nervous right now. I have no idea what to do. I told my friends and they tell me that everything is going to be alright and that I should have trust in him, I do but it isn't like it won't be possible- they're living together! So, really, can I have some advice? I'm really confused, worried and nervous right now. I really don't want to lose him. Thank you so much.
I know that your really nervous and scared, but dont be. Obviously, if he's dating you, he's over her. If you havent gotten any signs that he's not, dont worry about it. Im sure everything will turn out in your favor. Seriously, how much you wanna bet that she's just trying to make you jealous and make you seem scared. I would say talk to him about it, and tell him that your not okay with his living situations right now, but that wouldnt be the way to go. Then he would think that your jealous, and you dont trust him. If you dont have any reason not to trust him, then dont worry about it. If you tell him your feelings, he might just tell her and she'll know that she has a better chance of trying to get him back. I'm sure your a great girl and he doesnt want to lose you. Honestly, I dont think you have anything to worry about. Just act like it doesnt bother you, and it'll pass eventually. If she really liked him, she wouldnt want to hurt him right? Im sure he doesnt want to lose a great girl like you, and that's hurting him. Why would she want to do that? I hope everything works out for you!
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Thank you so much, you advice does help. I talked to him about it ( how his ex wants to get together again and how i am kind of uncomfortable with them living together and all) and he understood. He was kind of surprise with the whole getting together thing and he said he'll straighten things out. He told me not to be afraid or nervous because the thought of ending our relationship is just impossible. I'm really happy, I'm glad that you gave me such good advice and everything is cleared out and I'm so much more relieved.
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