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Q: Alright, well usually I'll agree 'age is just a number' but this situation...

My friend is a 15 year old girl and she's dating a 12 year old boy. I mean, yeah age is just a number but this is weird. People usually say on here 'Remember someone who is older wants a different kind of relationship' and that's true. A 12 year old boy has just left his "Girls have cooties" stage for gods sake!

Well my question is, do you think it's right that they're dating? Or is just me thinking it's wrong?

Also should I just let her be happy, or should I say something? If so, how should I put it?

hmmm interesting... that does seem kinda odd for a 12 year old boy and a 15 year old girl to date. She will be dropping him off at Middle School if they keep it up! lol

But all silliness aside, I think that it all has to do with the maturity level from both parties. But first of all, I just want to say that it is perfectly normal for you to have these feelings. Our culture and society has raised us to feel a little "weird" about older woman/younger man relationships, but perfectly fine with older man/younger woman relationships.

However, your friend and her... ahem... interest are still underage and might just be going out because they like how they look.

If it really REALLY bothers you, try to find a guy that fits the qualities of the 12 year old and ask how old he is. If he is 14-16, then introduce him to your friend. If he isn't, then keep looking lol. Perhaps she is interested in the 12 year old for the qualities he possesses and might not realize that there are plenty of guys her age to date.