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My friend is turning 20 in December and is in college. He is a good boy, doesn't do drugs, drinks socially but not excessively, and really is just a great person. He still lives at home with his parents because he is in school, but they are trying to control everything in his life and saying he is a disappointment and a bad kid when really he is not. He tries to make them happy and to please them but nothing he does works and they won't listen to any form of logic. They now have neighbors reporting to them when he has people come over to the house. He wants to leave but he has no where to go and cannot afford to live on his own. He just want to be able to live his own life and have them be happy but they won't allow that. Does anyone have any advice for him, because all I've been able to do is just listen to him. (link)
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You sound like a great friend. Look at financial aid options as well as student loans that will cover school and board. If he gets it, he can move out for a while, then find a job to try living on his own.
It might be really tough now; what worked for me was looking at my options out. Look at the rent for houses, job opportunities, part-time, at the campus. Ask him about what he thinks about doing, etc, and maybe he can go overseas for an internship or something. Going away for a while might change his take on things, and the attitude at home.
P.S It is really great you are trying to help him, but ultimately, the decision's up to him. You aren't solely responsible for him, or his happiness.
Take care
Good luck, Durga
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I know the decision is up to him that is why I'm just standing by supporting whatever he feels he needs to do.
Thank you
PS-I love the name, it is my group's name in my eastern religious thought class
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