this is kind of hard for me to explain, but i finally met the perfect guy. the one guy that has replaced my exboyfriend, the one guy that i can honestly say i'm in love with & know that it's the truth, or at least i thought it was.
ever since thursday, everything has been going downhill.
to start it off, i'm 17, he's 16. & we've been together for about a month & truthfully, he never really called me but like twice a week, he always wanted to talk on icq(which i hate). but whenever he would call me, it was perfect & we'd talk until like 3am because we just had so much to say. out of this month, we've only hung out twice because we go to different schools & because he never wants to make plans. i always try to do something & he always says he can't, or he cancels at the last minute.
well my birthday was friday & we made plans for my birthday so right as i was about to leave to go pick him up, he cancels on me saying his mom is making him stay home all day because his brother is in. so i was fine, and me & my friends went out & let alone, him & his friends were out driving around & they saw me & were like 'your boyfriend is in here' pointing at him, and he was hiding his head from me :(
we fought over that & then we fought again the next day over stupid stuff, he just kept being really difficult & wouldn't hardly say anything, and he kept making up excuses as to why he couldn't call me & such.
i really love him, and i know the obvious answer is to get out of this relationship, but i can't. i feel like if i wait a little longer, maybe things will improve? like he gets his license saturday & i'm hoping things will change.
i just need some input :(
Yeah, no one really can measure what's going through a sixteen year old boy's head. I know it hurts to know that he lied to you, and I'm sure you probably thought he had been lying to you all the other times too, but you have to talk. Please don't argue, just talk. You should tell him how you feel, I know you've heard that a million times, but it's what you really have to do. You should let him know how you feel about him not calling. Don't just say, "I hate it when you don't call..." Tell him that it makes you feel....(how ever it makes you feel). But he needs some serious adjustments as well. Tell him to talk to him, the way you talk on the phone till three AM. Ask, don't force, just ask him why he feels that he had to lie to you to just go out. Honesty and trust is what you and everyone in this world needs in a relationship. You should talk it out, and when I say talk, I mean not just ask, "why did you do this or that". But more like "I feel like this...when you do that..." or "Truthfully tell me how YOU feel when...".
If you are his first girl friend then that can also be why. Inexperience. I'm sure if that's the case then after you talk he'll be more aware of what he does that makes you feel sad. Cause usually first-time boyfriends end up being too clingy or treating their girl like they're just friends with benefits.
Now, if that it most definitely not the case, then it could also be something his friends have been saying or implying. If it is that they are talking about you, most guys, when talking about another person's girlfriend, don't mean half the things. Plus, he wouldn't want to 'tell on' his freinds. Or he would be too hurt that they disapprove that he'll just take it as them joking around. But he's still be worried about it.
Trust me, most single guys can be jerks when it comes to situations like these. But to be honest, it looks like you've been such an understanding girlfriend. If it IS his friends then you can be sure that they're wrong.
If it's not either of those things, just talk to him, like I said before. If you both truthfully talk to each other about this things will get better trust me, it works!!
Oh, and honestly, there is no such thing as a perfect boyfriend/girlfriend.
Everyone has flaws,
this is just one of his.
He may have seemed perfect, but now you can see his flaws, and I'm sure that there are plenty more things to love about him.
This is just a rocky path in the road. Keep going. (:
Yeah, but over-all, I think that he just doesn't realize how understanding and great you can be.
Well, the best of luck to you!!
I know some advice can be crap but I sincerely hope I helped out.
(:
Sincerely,
-jimmy.
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omg thank you so much, that was the best advice i had received from my question, it was what i needed to hear & i appreciate your honesty
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