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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Okay, I myself being a columnist hate it when there is more than one question to be answered clumped into one question. So, anywhos, I'm asking it as a separate question.

I'm 15/f(Sophomore). Bob and Betty are 16/f (Juniors) I met Bob through Betty and Betty and I are really good friends. Betty doesn't have feelings for Bob. Bob used to or still does have feelings for Betty. Bob just now, though, said he likes me as in like me, like me. And I told my friend to tell him that I was neutral (or at least I hope it sounded like I was neutral. Or at least it didn't sound like I didn't like him)

I'm pretty sure that I like him. It's just that I'm really worried about hurting him or damaging our friendship. I'm basically an emotional wreck with a 100lbs of mess and trouble hooked to the back of me. I really do want to go out with Bob, which is hard to do seeing that my mom doesn't like Bob and that he goes to another high school. But our school has a lot of events Bob can come to...Anywhos! Back to the point. Should I take a chance with Bob or just I don't know. Tell me what I should do. I really don't want to hurt him or the friendship but I know that in the end, nothing good ever lasts. And I don't know. I like him. But my fear of hurting him/friendship prevents me from letting me get in a relationship with him.

I don't know. Help?
If you're confused, help me help you by asking me to clarify parts your confused on. Thanks =)

Normally, I would tell people to just let it go and don't risk the friendship. But you know what? You only live once. You're not going to be in high school forever. Why not take a chance with this one?

Talk to Bob about this. Express your concerns and ask if the two of you can take things slow and get to know each other better. Once you really get close, you'll be able to tell if you want a serious relationship with Bob and he with you. He likes you; you like him... what do you have to lose? If he is a good friend in the first place, I doubt the friendship would be jeopardized. Taking things slow should prevent that from happening.

Go for it. Otherwise you'll probably go the rest of your life wondering what would have happened.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks.
What you said was logical and sensible.
Just what I need right now.
*No sarcasm or anything like that.*
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