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hey..
im a really really scared and paraniod person
i can like kill myself for the stupidest things in the world..
i always think the wronge way
then thoughts enter my mind
and get me all scared
can somone help me?
just give me advice to like keep my mind of things or something
thank =]
bye (link)
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My husband has these problems. He "thinks the wrong way", too. He was diagnosed as schizophrenic at 17 and then a few years later as manic depressive w/psychotic features. He is 30 now and though he has grown in some ways, he still has a lot of trouble. He takes everything wrong. He adds up the wrong things when people talk to him. He is paranoid. He accuses me of crazy, unbelievable things (though not as much as he used to)and reacts violently to these perceived issues. He believes that everything is directed at him in some way, or connected to him somehow. I believe this is because he feels that he is unimportant so he tries to fashion ways that he is important, even if it's negatively. Like for example: he feels people don't like him but he has to feel important to them, so he tells himself they don't like him, when the truth is they don't even know who he is. Or he is paranoid that people will dislike him and so he tries to protect himself by disliking them first and therefore CAUSING them not to like him, thus making his paranoid worry come true.
SO... first of all, stop over-thinking everything. Sometimes there IS no hidden motive or underlying meaning in stuff. A song is just a song. Nobody is going to hurt you. Nobody is talking about you and you know what? If they are, so what? You don't need them. When the scary thoughts come, remind yourself that you KNOW they are not true. Remind yourself that you KNOW there is nothing to be afraid of. I know this is hard but just keep doing it. I gave my husband a piece of paper that said things like: "I love you. You are important to this family. You are worth everything to me. I will not leave you", etc. and I told him to take it out and read it when he got scared or paranoid. Try to use self-talk in the ways I've described (tell yourself that you know it's not real, that you know there's nothing to be afraid of, that you know you are being paranoid and there's nothing to worry about.)
And second... honestly, you need to go to the doctor. These kinds of problems are very difficult to control and they can get worse as you get older. My husband's paranoia is better (now he only gets paranoid when he's upset, rather than all the time) but he is extremely absent-minded and forgetful. He can't focus. We have a child and a parent who can't focus is dangerous. He needs medication. You probably do, too. I know you don't want to hear that but you WILL feel better. He took Lithium, which is very safe and has no bad side effects. I took it too, once upon a time. It's for manic depression.
I wish you luck and love.
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awwww!! how nice!! thank you so much woah girl you helped alot=] ur children will be happy to have a mom like you!! =]!! lol
thank you so much
really
it helped alot
anytime im down
ima read this
thank u again =]
much love
peace
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