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Okay. I was on the phone with my friend Eric.. we were having a wickedd fun the conversation when I started hearing like yelling and screaming in the background. I was like ERIC are you okay?? What's going on?? And before he answered the phone went dead. I know it did because it said that. Wel sorta I know though. Well I tried calling back and everything but it said it was disconnected.. and err. Well I talked to him on AIM. He seemed like wicked sad. I dont know how I could tell I just did. I asked why his phone didnt work and he said they didnt pay the bill. Well I went over his house and noticed the phone was thrown across the room. I asked him about it but he didn't say anything. Then I noticed his Mom was still in bed and it was like 3 in the afternoon. And that beer bottles were everywhere. I asked him whats wrong whats going on and he started crying. Like I dont know.. flat out crying..So I listened to him and his parents are fighting a lot lately and his dads drinking a lot. I was really worried about him so my parents being there awsome cool and understanding selves let him like move in with us, and his parents want him back. I wont let him back what if he gets hurt! I love him..(were just friends) and i wont bare to see him go through that. So now my parents are fighting for i think custacy of him but I have the feeling he wants to go bac, for his mothers sake.
What Do I Do?
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YOu have to let this play out honey. I am glad that your parents are involved. It is in the hands of the adults now, and well, while we can't always count on them to do the right thing, (and here I am referring to his parents), we can always hope. Your parents may not be so lucky to get custody of Eric, because the courts often take the side of the blood relatives. ANd I am not surprised that Eric wants to go back. Here is what I am thinking happened. Eric ran up his cell phone bill and his father had a fit. His father obviously drinks too much. (maybe both parents do, you know better than I do.) Parents who drink too much don't often have money to pay the bills, and they never can face the fact that their drinking costs money too, and may even be preventing one or both parents from working a good job and making enough money. But they also don't want to face the fact that if they stopped drinking everything would be so much better. I definitly think that the argument was about the phone, because it was lying on the floor. But it is the parent who is drinking too much who is at fault. I am sure that your parents know the whole story and that is why they want to help. The best thing you can do honey is be there for your friend. He may be very concerned about his mother. He may feel that is dad will be harder on his mother if he is not around. It is NOT his responsiblity, but he can't help but feel like he should help. You would want to do all that you could to help them.
I know it's hard, but be patient and see how this plays out. And just be there for your friend. Sometimes just your company can be all that he needs...so he knows that he is not alone.
It really is a big burden that his parents are placing on him. And it should not be like that.
Good luck to you and your friend
Michele
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