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Q: Hi My problem is well I have been bfs with this friend lets call her jo for almost five years now and I have always been there for her and she for me but you see she turned 18 a few months back and I dont turn until two weeks and well I new she would get new friends and yes I am a little jealous I supppose but its not unfounded you see she recently made this new friend lets say amy and well she doesnt have time for me now. we used to phone each other every night and now when she tells me to phone shes never there shes out with amy. It at first didnt bother me but now it pisses me off cause we made a deal that we would never let someone come between us and that wed always be there for each other.
Also any time we spend time together as I say a rareity in itself shes always txtin or phonin this person and not payin any attention to the fact that shes supposed to be with me.
I guess what im sayin is that I think Im loseing the one person I have ever trusted and Its killin me and I cant tell her cause then ahll lose her anyway and that will kill me once and for all.
Another thing that really bugged me was she asked me if I wanted to go clubbing with her and when I said yes as its the week after my bday she said that I could "TAG ALONG" with her and amy.
I really need help cause this is really gettin me down and soz its so long.
lxx
please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Im assuming hat amy is already 18. So when jo turned 18 she got access to stuff you couldnt, and thats when amy came in to play. Dont feel bad. Start including yourself. At least you were invited which lets you know that she was at least trying to include you.
Honestly, I think you should tell her that you feel a little left out. Then she will start to include you more. Or just ask her what happened to us? I think we grew apart and see what she has to say. You cant just hold back because then you will never know.

Rating: 4

thx will talk to her
lxx

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