Member Since: August 23, 2007
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Last Update: August 23, 2007
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I think I have found mr. Right, but he just broke it off with me because he needs to search himself. The other day I let him know that I was going on a date and he told me later that it hurt him. He alluded to us getting back together after he figures this out and asked if I would move with him if he left after graduation. I said yes. I left the conversation feeling optimistic about us getting back together. The problem is I don't want to wait for him becuase he may never come around. I am dating this other guy, but I know it hurts him and I don't want to be with anybody, but him. He still comes over and it feels like he does this to keep me from spending time with other guys. should I be a bitch and demand that he stop coming over or basque in his presence when he comes over? I miss him. (link)
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Tell him that you respect him and his desire to improve himself, that, in fact, you understand it and wish him the best in finding out who he is.
BUT...in the meantime, you too have to live your life and cannot wait for anyone.
I don't reccomend getting back with him regardless. Perhaps, this is an opportunity for the two of you to become better friends. It's been my experience that people need to become themselves independently of others so if he's expressing this need, it's real and you shouldn't put pressure on him to be in a relationship with you if that's not in his best interest.
You are NOT being unreasonable by asking him to call before he comes to visit or by saying no if you have other plans.
The last thing I'll say is it's highly unadvisable for you to be physically intimate with him if he can claim single status to other women.
Anyways, best of luck.
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Your advice is practical and valid.
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