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Q: I'm a shy person and only have two close friends. I always thought that it didn't matter if other people accepted me because they did. Today my best friend sent me this email:

hey, i have something i need to talk to you about. it actually involves dixie too but she is too afraid to talk to you about it because she doesn't want to make you mad or upset. okay first off dixie and i both agree that you have been acting rude to us. every time we say something that isn't said "perfectly" or is not something you would say you treat us like we are 5. like for example at dixies party at my house i said something about sequences (i proabably spelled it wrong but i really don't give a crap) and you were like amanda you are special..blah blah blah. also you make a big deal out of the fact that dixie hasn't seen bambi.....BIG FRIGGIN DEAL!!! you haven't seen marry poppins...OOHH ASHLEY YOU HAVEN'T SEEN MARY POPPINS OH MY GOSH!!! sorry but that's the way you treat us. you have also been acting spoiled and it seems like you are trying to make us jealous....okay personally dixie and i don't give a dookie that you did whatever...good for you..we are happy for you! oh and the college situation. it seems like everytime we are talking about college you always say that dixie can't be an interior designer. SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS IF SHE PUTS HER MIND TO IT. she has an interest in it! SHE CAN DO IT! you are sapost to be her friend and support her instead of put her down!!! why don't you think she can be an interior designer??? cuz she doesn't dress like you do or decorate like you do???????? give me reasons..because if that is your reason then we don't think you could be a teacher because you have no patients. oh and that time you called me just to tell me I was wrong when really i only had a different opinion than yourself. it was about global warming. you said we are all going to die and blah blah. i don't believe in global warming and i don't believe we are all going to die. i don't care what scientists say or what al gore says...they're not God..i only believe what God says. i don't care if you are thinking i am stupid because i am my own person and i have my own opoinion....you heard the old saying "opoinions are like butt-wholes, everybody's got one!" that's all i have to say now but we just wanted to let you know how rude and childish you have acting. we love you to death and don't want to ruin our friendship but we had to say something so you would realize what you are doing is hurtful...and if you are thinking that this letter is hurtful i realize that. i wrote it so you would feel the hurt and humiliation you have caused us. please write back

I just don't get it. I mean I'm the one with self esteem issues. If anything I envy both of them. Just the thought of them being mad at me is killing me. Its like my world is falling apart. Its not just them. My whole family has been treating me worse lately. I'm digressing backwards. I'd went from almost commiting suicide to being a relatively happy teenager. I mean I'm 17 and I want my life to end. I'll never kill myself and I know it. I just don't want to spend the rest of my life alone and unhappy. I just need some advice and help.

By the way, sorry about how long this is.
Yeah, friends are always supposed to be there for you. But this isnt the end of the world...they said that they are just feeling bad about how they are being treated. Just try to watch what you say. I was in the same boat as you not to long ago...I started acting strange because my family life was NOWHERE near perfect and it effected my attitude untill my best friends started talking about me and said they wanted nothing to do with me..which isnt fair since they were leaving me in my time of need but thats beside the point.

I realize that you are feeling lonely and it wasnt really nice of your friend to say that stuff to you! she could of certaintly said it in a nicer way. but just say your sorry if you are and try to work on how you treat them.

I hope i helped and i hope everything does work out :/

thx

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