Member Since: August 8, 2007
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me and my boyfriend had been together for about 8 months, i know it doesn't seem like...that long. i lost my virginity to him. he cheated on me, twice. once in march, once in june. in june he had sex with the girl. i'm not sure what he did with the other girl, he didn't have sex with her though. he realizes now that he made a huge mistake. he wasn't the one to tell me, it was some of his friends. he called me later crying, apologizing, feeling so awful. then yesterday he came over, and we ended things. things were ended good though, not bad. i forgave him for what he did. we cried on eachothers shoulders. it all sounds a little bit pathetic. whats even more pathetic is that i miss him, i realize i'll get over it. i just don't know what to do. i still have feelings for him. i'm ridiculous. (: (link)
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You are going through a tough time right now. Even though what he did was awful it is normal and expected to miss him badly in the first few weeks. After all ending a relationship is a bereavement process, you are mourning what was and what will never be.
It's incredibly painful but hang in there and treat yourself with respect i.e. don't do anything crazy or stupid that will get you made fun of by his friends like show up at his work or constantly call him. Make a clean break from him, don't hang out and don't chat on the phone most of all don't jump into another relationship right away (if you do find a guy that you really like wait. Tell him how you feel but that you need some time to sort out your baggage from the last relationship. Trust me if he's worth anything he will appreciate it).
Most importantly don't get back together with your ex, if it was anything besides cheating I would maybe support getting back together but since he is a serial cheater he will only repeat it despite all of his promises.
Good luck and even though it doesn't feel like it right now you'll feel better soon.
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