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I just got married, and I'm a virgin. and me and my husband we're trying to have sex, but i cudn't let him in. it really hurt. i know people say it hurts the first time, but this is ridiculous. lol
is there any way to make it less painful? (link)
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I would suggest that you plan an intimate evening. That will help to relax you. Some soft music and lots of kissing and hugging and just being together. Laughing and enjoying each other.
You should also have on hand some KY Jelly. This is a vaginal lubricant. It is clear and had no odor and is used extensively. It also comes scented if you like. You would use the lubricant on his penis before he inserts it.
You could also try massaging each other to relax both of you. You have to imagine that even though a vagina is small, it is designed to stretch. Because your vagaina doubles as the birth canal when you have a baby. So if a baby can fit, most men could fit.
It could just be your nervousness that is preventing you from enjoying yourselves. Please give it another try. If it still seems impossible, then you may need to see an OB/GYN to make sure that there is nothing physically wrong.
Good luck to both of you.
Michele
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