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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

How can i let my b/f no that i want to do a little more than what we are doing now? I dont want 2 have sex but just more stuff.. Without well like making him feel weird??!!!.... How do i no that he wants to do these things 2??... 14/f...!! any advice!?...

The most important thing is to make sure he is comfortable with going further in your relationship. You really need to sit down and discuss with him your wants, his wants, and how far the two of you are willing to go. It's important to talk about that stuff because 1) there won't be any accidents, 2) it will be less awkward, 3) neither of you will feel pressured, and 4) you will understand each other much better.

Communication is really important when it comes to stuff like this. If you aren't comfortable enough to talk with him about going farther, then you aren't ready to go farther at all.

Trust me, after you talk about him with this, you'll feel a lot better and you'll be able to get more out of the relationship and so will he.

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(Rating: 5) thnks alot u really helped!!!
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