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15/f. Pardon me if this is long. But it's ruining my life.
Last year I was a really lonely and pathetic teenager. At 14, I had no friends I could trust, and all that revolved around my mind, was school and homework. And then I stumbled upon an online forum. There, I made lots of friends and became so much happier. I had gotten more social through the ways of the internet chatroom. The people there all shared my interests and were so nice and sweet to me. It was almost like a dream. I actually thought I was fitting in somewhere. Ever since, to this day, it has become an addiction. Particularly because of one guy. Let's call him "Vibrator". Vibrator is 3 and a half years older than me. That makes him...(well, you do the math, if I'm 15 1/2) And he lives in North America (as I do) He shares my music interests, hobbies and other things such as this. When he talks to me (and we have been talking online on MSN and AIM for a course of one year) he is always so sweet and sugary and amazing. I feel like I've known Vibrator forever. He always compliments me and tells me I'm pretty. It makes me feel amazing. But, I'm a bit paranoid, because I've only seen like ONE picture of him! And I'm always sending him pictures o.o And everything we discuss....personally..is always about me. So I feel as if...he wants to know about me, but never tells me about himself. Is he hiding something? I don't know what to do ! I'm so emotionally attached to him. And he flirts with other girls too, and then tells me later that he has no "sexual" feelings for me. He tells me that we should meet and he tells me he wants to. He manipulates and plays with my feelings. He really is ruining my life. I hate him, but at the same time I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him. But I'm so unsure. It's becoming an obsession talking to him. And he gets mad very frequently...when he does, I cry. He upsets me a lot. But then he apologizes and plays with me...like that. I cry over him. I can't tell this to anyone. Not even my best friend, because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I like someone online.
What should I do? Please. :( Any piece of advice would be helpful. (link)
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Well seriosuly he sounds like the typical online older guy. Tells you want you want to hear, compliments you 24/7, makes you feel like your the only girl that matters, makes you feel like you love him because once you love someone and you think there the right person then they have you in there trap.( i don't say trap meaning that he is a sexual predator, but you can't be too sure. He is the exact description of one. Most sexual predators tell people that they have no sexual feelings for the other person so that would make them feel more comfortable, but all they really want is sex, and if he is pressuring you to come and see him then i would really make my next moves careful ones.) Once you have grown these uncurable feelings for anyone it's hard to disappoint them doing anything. You feel as if your obligated to not let him down. Which is natural for anyone who loves someone, but the question is does he love you back, does he feel the same way. From my opinion, no. He wouldn't be flirting with other girls if he really loved you. You would be his main focus and there would be no need for any other girls. And i can guarantee that when you two first started talking he wasn't getting mad or upset with you.
From putting everything together, his anger, his flirting, him only letting you see one picture of him, his compliments for you and his non-sexual feelings for you, and what i know about sexual predators i would say that you need to find out alot more about him before you even consider seeing him, be careful, take things slow, really think about if he is the right guy before you say you love him...you can do that by making a list of what you want in a boyfriend and well if he has everything you want then maybe he is the onef for you. Just be safe.
This subject is very important to me, and i would love if you could contact me with more information. You can write to my email, and i have a aim. I'm available 24/7 sweetheart.
(: Smilez til Later :)
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