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I am a 27 year old female from Scotland. I have a lot of life experience and will do my best to answer any questions you have honestly.
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15/f. Pardon me if this is long. But it's ruining my life.
Last year I was a really lonely and pathetic teenager. At 14, I had no friends I could trust, and all that revolved around my mind, was school and homework. And then I stumbled upon an online forum. There, I made lots of friends and became so much happier. I had gotten more social through the ways of the internet chatroom. The people there all shared my interests and were so nice and sweet to me. It was almost like a dream. I actually thought I was fitting in somewhere. Ever since, to this day, it has become an addiction. Particularly because of one guy. Let's call him "Vibrator". Vibrator is 3 and a half years older than me. That makes him...(well, you do the math, if I'm 15 1/2) And he lives in North America (as I do) He shares my music interests, hobbies and other things such as this. When he talks to me (and we have been talking online on MSN and AIM for a course of one year) he is always so sweet and sugary and amazing. I feel like I've known Vibrator forever. He always compliments me and tells me I'm pretty. It makes me feel amazing. But, I'm a bit paranoid, because I've only seen like ONE picture of him! And I'm always sending him pictures o.o And everything we discuss....personally..is always about me. So I feel as if...he wants to know about me, but never tells me about himself. Is he hiding something? I don't know what to do ! I'm so emotionally attached to him. And he flirts with other girls too, and then tells me later that he has no "sexual" feelings for me. He tells me that we should meet and he tells me he wants to. He manipulates and plays with my feelings. He really is ruining my life. I hate him, but at the same time I like him a lot. I don't know what to do. I really want to meet him. But I'm so unsure. It's becoming an obsession talking to him. And he gets mad very frequently...when he does, I cry. He upsets me a lot. But then he apologizes and plays with me...like that. I cry over him. I can't tell this to anyone. Not even my best friend, because I'm too embarrassed to admit that I like someone online.
What should I do? Please. :( Any piece of advice would be helpful.
You need to stop talking to this guy immediately! I don't mean to scare you hunny but this guys is in all likliness not who he says he is.
I know what it is like when you are a teenager and you feel that you don't fit in but now that you have acquired all these new social skills online you should be putting them to good use in the outside world.
As for this guy - if you don't feel that you can actually tell your parents about him then call his bluff. You say that he gets angry a lot and upsets you so why give him the time of day????
If I were you, I would tell him that you really like him and want to meet up so badly that you have told your parents about him and they have agreed to come with you to meet him. If he reacts angrily you can bet your bottom dollar that he is not the person that he is portraying himself to be. In the unlikely event that he agrees then be sure to tell your parents or adult and get them to go with you to meet him. NEVER EVER meet someone that you have met online without an adult with you. And under no circumstances let him talk you into meeting without an adult there. If he is genuine and cares about you he will want you to feel safe and secure when you go to meet him.
I know that you are emotionally attached to this guy and that it will hurt not to talk to him anymore however if he has been lying to you all this time then it is better to hurt now and save yourself a whole lot of agony and the possibility of a very nasty situation in the future.
At least then you can move on, put your new found social skills to excellent use and have lots of fun getting to new people and trying new things with them. There is probably some lovely guy out there just waiting to meet you.
Hope this helps and feel free to email me any other questions.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. =)