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and constantly compares you to another sibling, calls u stupid, fat, ugly (about every time she sees me)....like, everytime theres a TV ad for a skincare line or something she says, 'you should get that!' (cause i don't have such great skin) every 5 seconds ...she loves it.
always talking to me and staring at my acne and/or saying, "what is happening to your face?!". and shes always like, you look so ugly right now!
or she even tells me to shut up randomly, sometimes even wanting to get violent....or 'why don't you get your eyebrows done? (ur (my) sister) is so much prettier, why can't you look like her', etc.....'ur so dark (wtf?) and ugly'
she is bipolar, for real. i can't take it anymore.
she is so comforting to hug sometimes and talk to when I'm low or when my dad gives me stress (he is a resume/checklist, 'did u finish this, did you finish that'' type of dad!) not a great combo. But it's so weird because she gets into a nasty behavior randomly.
for example...i have concentration problems (add) and my dad helps me focus sometimes to do my schoolwork (i take medication, i'm 17)....and my mom imitates me and is like, "I'm so stupid, I'm going to just use my dad, he can do all my work for me, and mom cooks so I can use her too."
it's hard and really annoying because she digs into some of my deepest insecurities and just full on insults me. my sister doesn't talk to her anymore. but its harder for me because i still live in this house.
its lonely as ever, especially because as of now I don't have many friends since I moved and am going to a new school this fall. =/! (link)
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Hi. I'm a doctor of psychology who has written a book about sibling rivalry and favoritism. I have a website too.
Unfortunately if a parent doesn't like you, there can be a few reasons. One may be that you are the favorite of the other parent, and this one is jealous of you. In that case you should acknowledge your privileged position with the loving parent TO YOURSELF, but NEVER share it with anyone else in the family. Just be happy you are in the favored position with your other parent, and leave well enough alone. If you talk about it, I promise it will only make matters worse. On a personal level, you then have to mourn the loss of hope of your mother ever loving you the way you would like, and learn to accept that this will never change.
If you are actually disfavored by both of your parents and have nowhere in your family to turn to for love, this is a very sad situation. You face the difficult task of having to part with the hope that you will ever derive any emotional satisfaction from your family members. It is again a process of mourning that you must go through, with the knowledge that things will never really change and you will have to face your life alone. However, this is not usually the case for most kids. There is most often somewhere to turn to for love in the family, even if it is a grandparent, cousin, uncle, aunt, grandmother, etc. Just try to find alternate sources of support in your life and accept your mother as she is.
Dr. Vera Rabie-Azoory
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