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hey, i know you have your own problems to deal with and stuff but. i dont know i need some advice and you seem understanding and stuff. so, if you could help me with this, thatd be great.
nothing seems to be going good for me lately.
i was going out with this boy that i really really liked. alot.
boys tend to not treat me well..ive been punched by boyfriends, slapped..stuff like that.
& this boy was one of the only boyfriends ive had who treated me good. things were going great for about 4 months..up until lately when he started calling me stupid, ugly, and fat.
it got to me.
big time.
about 3 years ago, i became obsessed with losing weight. it started off with just like, cutting down portions. then last year, it got worse. i cut out eating all together sometimes.
now, it hurts to eat. mentally and physically.
i know i screwed my metabolism up, and now i can only eat little things.
and i always feel so bad after i eat. i feel really disappointed to the point where i just want to throw up.
and im constantly feeling big, fat, and [for lack of better words-] whale-ish.
and so when my boyfriend started being kinda rude to me, all that came back.
so i thought if i dumped him and cut him off from my life completely i would feel better about myself.
well. i did.
but i only feel worse.
i feel that if i lost weight i would feel better about myself
so ive been excercising more and trying to eat right, but i cant seem to lose anything, which only makes me feel worse.
i dont know, its messed up.
do you have any advice?
about anything?
sorry this is long.
oh. idk if this helps but
im 16, 5'2, 98 lbs.
thank you for reading this. (link)
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Well lets start off with saying, you arent fat in anyway. So let that off your shoulders. Im 5'1 and usually weigh in at about 120 pounds.
The reason you feel like this is because of the fact that society has made every girl believe you have to be rediculously skinny to be attractive. Just look in the mall , the display models are always a size zero or under. Every girl in a movie is super thin. Your ex is a moron. I have been through my share of mental and physical abuse with men. The reason you arent losing anything else is because there is nothing left to lose. Plus exercise builds muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat. You need to understand that this is something many girls go through.
If you want to feel better, go change your clothes and hair. Your weight is fine. Sometimes a drastic change will make your confidence go up. Once i got pregnant, I had to do that because i turned into a whale.(in my opinion). I got my hair done, got some new clothes. But it helps that my fiance is supportive on my weight. You need to stay away from guys like that. One insult is enough to walk away. Go swimming and running, eat 3 times a day, but small portions. Thats how i kept my weight off when i weighed 95 pounds....it works wonderfully. But remember you are fine how you are...if you feel you cant make it stop..see help, you may have a disease, Not a complex.
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thank you
really, this helps a lot.
thanks so much
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