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How do you break up with someone who really really loves you, without hurting them? How can you let them know that they're really great, but you just can't be with them?

this is always been a problem of mine. in fact, the reason my relationships are so long, is because i've always waited around for the guy to break up with me. but here's what i've told my friends to do in the past:
i personally think writing it out is so much easier. that way, you get your word in, and you won't forget your points (it's so much easier to forget what you want to say when you're under pressure, like that).
if writing is not for you, make sure you two are alone when you do it. that way, it's less embarassing.
make sure of two main things. let him have a say. this dosen't mean, let him get his way. but it does mean that he deserves a chance to say what's on his mine, aswell. also, make sure your reasons for breaking up are all true, and fairly straightforward. don't go around things; be completly honest! i've learned this the hard way, because you end up having to lie in the future. for example, if it's not true, don't say you don't want a boyfriend at the moment, or you don't want to date, or something like that..
you could tell him that you think he's amazing, but you two arent' exactly compadible anymore.
really, the whole thing is to be honest. try to list the reasons to yourlself, and then write out what you'd like to say in a calm, kind manner.
really, write it out as if someone else were writing it to you. think about how you would feel reading it, i guess..

i know this has been long, but i really hope it helps you out, somehow!

best of luck!!!

xoxo
kat.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks for taking the time to write all that! Really good advice
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