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So, like, my girlfriend broke up with me like 6 months ago. And I actually cannot get her off my mind. I mean, I think I actually still really like her which is all the worse because she doesn't want anything to do with me. We used to be friends before we went out and I really liked her for a fair few months before anything was said. So its like I went from having this fairly good friendship to a relationship to nothing. And, well, it still hurts.
I mean, I know why she broke up with me and everything, and her points are pretty fair (I was too clingy i suppose is the best way to describe it). But I only acted the way I did because, in a typically manly and ironic thing to do, I didn't want to lose what I had waited so long to get. I really cared about her, infact I still do. And given the choice I would go back and change what I did. But thats not going to happen, so I have to deal with it.
Now, your first thought might be 'wow, this guys pathetic'. Well, I don't have a particularly high opinion of myself either. But I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for what I can do?
And trust me, I have heard everything about it taking time, but 6 months and counting is far too long to wait in my opinion.
I mean, I really want to tell her how I still feel, but the thing is I havent spoken to her in literally 2 months and a random message from me detailing how I feel won't go down well I fear.
Because the thing at the bottom is telling me to, i'm 17/m and she is 17/f (duh)
Any help would be appreciated
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Love hurts. Sometimes it can take years. Hell sometimes it doesnt go away. But ask yourself. You dont ever talk to her now right? So whats it going to hurt to tell her how you feel? I mean what is she going to do? Not talk to you anymore?
Also, i think it must be a little more than you being too clingy. Why would she never want to talk to you again for that?I would approach it in the sense that you want to know what really happened. And explain to her that you havent gotten over her yet and you need her to know that. Open yourself up like you did in this. Also, to give yourself confidence, dont be shy about it. Be very stern, dont give her the thought that you are going to beg. But let her know you still care....and that you want some closure. Good luck hun....and remember it does take time...sometimes it takes someone really special to make you forget about the scars of the past.
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