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My friend's boyfriend is terrible. He smokes, drinks, does drugs. Basically, all the things she'd never do. And now we barely talk anymore and I don't know what to do. They've been together for a while now, but we've been friends 5 times longer. I try talking to her, but she pushes me away. How can I tell her that she can do so much better? What should I say? (link)
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If her boyfriend is into all of these things maybe there is a reason she is pushing you away. She probably feels like she can't leave the relationship because she knows he is a horrible person. She might feel like she is stuck there forever and is screaming for help but no one is helping!
I think you need to get her on her own and talk to her.. tell her that you miss the friendship you used to have and can see that her boyfriend is changing her for the worse.
She might not come around straight away but give her time.. always let her know you are there for her.. she'll come around eventually but in the mean time keep out for signs of perhaps abuse from the boyfriend.. if she doesn't normally do the things that her boyfriend is there could be a bit or pressure for her to do these things too.
She'll only ruin her life if she starts doing drugs and things..!
What about her parents or someone else that she is close with.. could you perhaps talk to them, let them know how you feel and what they boyfriend gets up too, if she is talking to someone older then her she might wake up!
I wish you luck, I hope she comes around for her own sake :)
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