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im 17 years old almost 18.
i have an amazing boyfriend who is everything i could possibly ask for.
today was our first time trying anything sexual.
we didnt have sex but we messed around.
im horrible at saying what i want to happen or not to happen.
its too late to sit down and set boundaries now.
i loved messing around with him and im comfortalbe with it but im worried that we havent waited long enough and that ill end up having sex with him. (which is something im not emotionally ready for)
i can talk to him easily and hes understanding but what do i do if i want to mess around and am comfortable with it but im not sure if its whats best for our relationship right now???
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Ok this is what you need to tell your boyfriend..
You are happy and feel comfortable doing sexual things with him but for the moment sex is out of the question. It's something that you aren't ready for and you want it to be more then perfect!
If you and your boyfriend were messing around and now your scared you haven't waited long enough... think again hun.. You said yourself that you were comfortable and that you loved messing around with him..
What more could there be too it..?!
If you are feeling guilty now could it possibly be that your parents wouldn't approve if they found out..?! Or is something bothering you?
To me it sounds like you waited long enough and you thought and talked about it with your boyfriend and you both sound mature and comfortable with what you are doing.
From going to oral etc to sex is a big thing so if you say you are not ready.. don't do it until you are!! You'll only feel horrible other wise!
I'm sure your boyfriend isn't expecting sex from you right now.. If he's waited this long just to cop a feel then he'll wait an eternity to have sex with you.
Your boyfriend can't force you to have sex and you shouldn't try to 'hurry' yourself up emotionally to have sex.. it'll happen when it happens!
Just remember to play it safe ;P
Good luck, be careful, have fun!
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thank you so much.
this is probably the best advice i could have gotten on this subject.
and you are right...if i felt comfortable with it (which i did) then theres no need to worry.
ill continue messing around with him and explain to him that sex is not an option. :)
thanks again
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