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I'm 14 and i've never had a boyfriend. I don't really care and I don't obsess over it or anything but if I do ever get one any time in highschool I wouldn't want to do stuff like being fingered or sex or blow jobs and all that...


is that weird? I just don't think i'd feel comfortable doing any of that. I wouldn't have a problem with kissing though..

I'm scared i'll never get a boyfriend just because I don't want to do any of that stuff.

Sweetie, you're only 14 & of course it's not weird to feel that way. These days, kids are exposed to these things younger & younger & it's really sad. When I was 14 (which was only 5 years ago), those kinds of pressures weren't very common, not to mention discussed that often. It seems like there's more & more pressure to get boyfriends & become sexually active at such a young age. My advice? Don't worry about a boyfriend for a few more years. You aren't missing out on anything great. Most guys your age aren't mature enough to carry on a real relationship without the sexual part of it. When you're older, it'll be somewhat easier to find someone on the same level as you are. Focus on school & worry about boys later. You'll be happy your decision later, I promise you.

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(Rating: 5) great advice! thank you
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