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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

I recently got pregnant from having sex with some guy I met at a bar one night. I know. It was wrong of me, and I feel terrible. I am debating whether or not I should get an abortion. I know that this guy won't ever even consider being a father, and I don't know if I can handle a baby on my own. I've heard so many stories of single mothers going crazy. I don't know what to do! I'm so torn up inside!
Does anyone have any advice they are willing to give to me to help me make the right decision.

Thanks so much to you all.

Why not give the baby a chance at life and put him or her up for adoption? There are so many parents out there that are unable to have children and would be able to give your baby a loving home.

While I'm against abortion, I do understand if you want to have one. Just PLEASE make sure you are responsible next time so you won't have to be in this situation again. I'm sure you've learned your lesson.

Before ruling the father out, have you even talked to him about the fact that you're pregnant? How much do you really know about him? I really think it would be a good idea to call him up and discuss your options together. He got you into this too and he should help in making the decision.

I'm sure even if you did end up keeping the baby as a single mother, you wouldn't go crazy. Would it be easy? No. But having your own child can truly be a rewarding experience. Whether or not you are ready to handle that experience is your choice and your choice alone. If you can support the baby and have family to support you, why not consider keeping the baby?

I wish you the best and I hope it works out. Just know that you have other options besides abortion.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. You were very detailed and you gave very good options. Thanks again!
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