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Hey.
One of my best friends has just started smoking pot and it's been freaking me out. She doesn't do it on a regular basis yet, but she hangs out with kids who are full-fledged potheads.

We've been friends for a really long time and I care about her a lot...I don't want her to do anything stupid. I don't harbor any delusions about the dangers of weed; I know it won't kill her, but I just don't want her to get in too deep or something. I love her, but she doesn't always have the best judgment...

So my question is: would it be out of line for me to confront her about it, or should I just mind my own business?

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.

When I was fourteen, my friend started doing pot too and hanging out with people that would drink and stuff constantly. I never said anything to her [I thought it was just a phase, but I see now at 18 years old that she's still doing the same thing], we were still friends but we definitely grew apart. Looking back, I wish I would have told her that I was concerned for her. Even if she would have gotten angry at me or told me to stop judging her, I still wish I would have confronted her. Or at least made her aware of how scared I was for her safety.

Maybe just bring it up to her if you notice any changes with her, such as grades dropping, or if you two start growing apart. Just tell her how you feel, if she cares about you she will take your feelings into consideration. Hope I helped, or at least gave some insight.

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