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hey i'm courtney! :)
i'm nineteen and i live in ohio. i am currently not going to college, and just working fulltime.. i'm single and not really looking but,i love to go tanning, shopping, and seeing friends. i am very social, and love to listen to problems and help the best way i know how. i am a very happy person, and willing to be there for people who need me most, and i care for most in life. that's a bit about me heh.

advice

I was in an abusive relationship for almost
2 years. I won't go into details, I will say
it was physical abuse.

I was smart enough to finally say enough is enough
and get out. I do not intend to ever get back into
a relationship like that. So I don't need that kind of advice.

The problem is, it has been almost a year since
this happened. To say I am scared to get involved
in another relationship would be putting it mildly.

I am on my own, I have a decent job and many friends. But there is nobody "special" in my
life.

I cannot afford the expense of therapy, so even
though that would be a good suggestion, I just
can't afford it.

Is there anyone out there who has gone through something similar and would be willing to advise me on how to start dating and trusting men again?

I know they are not all like my ex, but how do I
begin again?


From someone who use to be in an abusive relationship...

- take baby steps.
-you don't have to open your heart right away completely.
- get to know the person before you make accusations.
- build trust.
- explain to them that you need to take it slow.
- talk to your friends when you need support and to vent. thats why their there for you.
- don't be so hard on yourself.
- let someone back in to care for you.
-just take it slow. build trust and commitment. =]

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(Rating: 5) Thank you for sharing what worked for you.
It is wonderful knowing that things can get
better.
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