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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

mmkay, me and my boyfriend have been talking about having sex and where pretty sure we're foing to. it'll be my first time so I got a couple of questions. Like I know it hurts so like if you have to compare how much it hurts what would it hurt like? also how efffective are condoms? What are my chances of getting pregnant? what should I know before I do this? I'm sorry, I'm just really confuesed. I really think I'm ready for this and I really actually want to.
someone please help! lots of awnsers please! Thank you so much!

To be honest, the first time you have sex, it will feel like someone is pushing a size 24 shoe up your vagina. That sounds harsh, but it's the truth. Make sure to tell your partner to go slow and give yourself time to stretch and get used to it.

Condoms are effective as long as they fit correctly. And, of course, if they don't break. Trojan and Lifestyles are good brands of condoms. I've always used them and they have never broken. I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY suggest you use two forms of birth control. The condom is a good one, but you should also consider getting on the pill. It's better safe than sorry. Pregnancy is not something to take lightly. I'm sure you think you know that, but you have no idea until it actually happens to you.

What are your chances of getting pregnant? Obviously greater since you're going to have sex. No birth control method is 100% effective on it's own. But if you use two types (such as the pill AND condoms) you'll be that much less likely to get pregnant.

Basically, don't take chances and be safe. Pregnancy scares are the worst things in the entire world. Use protection. Get on the pill.

You should also know that the first few times you have sex, it will continue to hurt. It will take quite a bit for your vagina to get used to having a penis in there. So go slow and give yourself time.



Let me know if you need anything else.

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much!
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