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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

Freshman year of high school I was going into a new school and didn't have a lot of friends,but I got a few within the first couple weeks.I just got more and more in and out of school,including people I hadn't talked to in a while.Summer was great,but by the end of it I sort of abruptly stopped talking to people as much.It really hit me at a party when I was sort of sitting around while everyone was mingling.It got worse and I ended up talking to hardly anyone,and I don't think I hung out with anyone for the entire year.So Summer's here,and even though it just started...things don't seem any different.I don't want my summer to be like last year,and I REALLY don't know what I'll do if my Junior year goes the same way as last year.

What can I do to get back with my old friends,or make some new ones?

Call up your old friends and see if they want to go to the beach with you. Make an effort to call all those people you stopped talking to and try to get closer with them again. Invite them over for a movie night or something. I'm sure they'd be excited to start seeing you again. When you do contact them, point out that you've been pretty busy, but you miss them and you'd like to start hanging out again.

You could also make new friends by joining a summer sport or getting a job. Both are great ways to make new friends.

The important thing is to try and be social and make plans with people. Don't wait for them to call you.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you.Waiting for them to make a move is probably why I haven't been getting anywhere.
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