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Q: situation:
i was at this party last friday and i ended up making out with this guy who's infamous for hooking up with a lot of girls. my 'friends', L, A, and S, were the ones who made me do it. they said "come on its your first make out and you should do it". without a defense, i did. the next week at school, they told everyone who would hear. they told my prude friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd be ashamed of me), my best gay guy friends (who i didn't want knowing because they'd make fun of me), and basically everyone else (because they'd judge me).

problem:
what the heck do i do?!?!
do i stick up for myself?
do i make a joke of it?
do i apologize to my friends who are ashamed of me?

i regret it and i'm mad at L, A, and S.

Well first of all, no one made you do anything. We all have freewill, including the will and ability to say, "No, I don't want to." It may not sound cool, but at least you won't end up doing something you'll regret in the future. You need to apologize to yourself for not sticking up for yourself at the party, first. As to your other friends, it's not their life, it's not their business, and they are in no position to judge you.

In response to your feedback: No one said life was going to be easy. And sometimes, you may have to battle "the world." I've been there, I've done that, and I still do it. But if you don't stick up for yourself and your own opinions, no one else will.