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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.

I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.

I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.

People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.

Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.

I can give excellent advice on:
relationships/sex
friendship
family issues
anything about animals (i worked at a vet for several years)
college

advice

I'm a teenage girl who has way more maturity than any other teenager you'll meet. I suffer from depression, and well everyone in my town is a shallow preppy conceited betch who only cares about their nails/hair/clothes/etc.

The problem is i just choose not to obsess over that inane stuff (to a certain extent- It's not like I disregard my appearance completely) and people think that's really weird.

I'm a thespian and musical theater is all I care about.


Why am I the only person in the world who has REAL values, and would rather spend time doing something REAL, like musical theater, instead of just doing something inane like shopping?


I cry about it all the time.

everyone asks me "what are you so sad about?" and i never know what to say. :(

-EDIT-
Sorry for offending you, but that's what I believe. Don't call me bitchy. I didn't say you were bitchy. I'm just trying to be honest. That's what real advice is. Besides, if I was "just like them," why would I care about poverty and world hunger?

You aren't the only person in the world with "real values." What you fail to realize is that those people that value materialistic things do so to shield themselves from the real world. They feel that as long as they have money to buy themselves nice things, the rest of the world must be okay too. They live in a surreal world where everything is seemingly perfect, when it's far from it. Musical theater does the same thing for you. You most likely feel that as long as you have it in your life, everything is better.

Not to be rude, but you aren't any different. You putting theater before everything else is just like them putting clothes before everything else. If you think musical theater is a value, then that's your opinion. Other people are entitled to their opinions. Some people really think looking nice is a value. They're allowed to think that.

I understand that musical culture is really important, but, honestly, it's not going to solve any really big problems like poverty or world hunger. Musical theater is a great thing, yes, but it's not the most important thing in the world. You want to make a difference? Get your theater friends together and start a food drive. During your shows, put out cans for donations to the poor. I don't know what kind of town you live in, but maybe you and your friends can go around and get kids interested in music so they'll stay off the streets and out of trouble.

Start helping people while doing the things you love and I guarantee you'll be 100% happier. Your positive influence will affect everyone around you, including those materialistic people. You can make a difference.

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(Rating: 5) well excuse ME, but i actually am quite different. At least musical theater is a REAL thing that requires talent and initiative and hard work. Shopping does not.

I appreciate your advice, but i'm offended by it.

you're probably really shallow and bitchy just like everyone else.
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