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Q: ok im 19 and i have been with my man for like, a year and a half. the guy hasn't had sex in almost 2 years and i am still a virgin. he knows and respects that. But recently he has become sexually frustrated b/c we live together and he says it feels like we are already married with out any of ther perks ... meaning sex. im scared and i want to sleep with him i really do, but im afraid of the pain. he told me there are only two options for this situation. 1: I allow him to go and strictly have sex with another woman, just to get rid of the frustration (but he said he doesnt want that cuz he knows it will hurt me) or 2: for me to get over my fear and go through with it.
well, it all boils down to im afraid of both options, and well, i don't face fears very well. what should i do? Any kind of advice is welcome please help me out.
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There are always more options than just those two. If you're not ready to have sex, he should respect that. "Marriage" without the perks? Please. Marriage is so much more than sex and so is a relationship, even when you're living together. However, if it is just a matter of the pain, it is something you're going to deal with eventually, so if you really want to have sex with him, do so. But if you're really not ready and just feel pressured, then you need to talk to him and if he can't accept that, find someone else. I know I would be doing that if my boyfriend said "sleep with me or I'll find some other woman you know, just to sleep with."
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well i worded it wrong. it shoulda said "and the only two options to get rid of hte frustration" so its not like he is going to go out and cheat on me JUST to have sex. lol but thank you
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Gender: Female Location: Georgia Occupation: College Student Age: 20 Member Since: November 20, 2004 Answers: 17 Last Update: May 26, 2007 Visitors: 2775
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