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ok this goes here and some other places but i used to be this really happy cheerful little girl but then all of a sudden that changed and my life got turned upside down i mean i gained alot of weight i stopped caring abot myself and even some others but mainly myself and now i dont know what to do because i want to go back to the way i used to be but it seems like evry time i try to i just get pushed right back down i mean i want to lose alot of weight be more healthy and be happy again but i cant seem to get the motivation for it everytime i get pushed back down so how i am ever goona change HELP (link)
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I know how you feel. I used to be a really happy little bubbly girl and i started to change. If you are like I was you are always setting unrealistic goals for yourself and others and nobody can reach these goal so you becomes disappointed and you start to not believe in people. You have probably become depressed. It would be easier to assess your problem in person, but I can't so find a counselor to talk to and if you do not wish to do that then work with me. Bear with me on this cuz' i'm a bit new but i want to help you.
If you want the help and you want to change you will. The first thing you need to do is think about what you expect of others and then lower it. Try to expect less of them. Try to think more realistically. You will find people much more pleasant when they meet your new lower goals.
Also, try to accept yourself. This is the hardest part for most people, but once you can accept yourself you will be able to accept others better.
Remember that we are all human and we all make mistakes so you have to allow others to be human as they allow you to be.
I hope you find this useful. E-mail me and tell me how all goes:):)
lil_psychologist@yahoo.com
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ok well thanks for that but really one thing is i dont think it's setting goals for others that are to high i set goals for me that are to high and the only goal i set for others is that they except me for me and that my family like me really cause it doesnt seem like they do even though they say they do and when tehy say it they say in a really rude way like their lieing and i think ui'd be alot happier if i lost alot of weight cause people are so judgmental these day they take one look at you and they think eww or something like that
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