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Xenolan
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ok im almost 18 and when i was younger i experminted i was like 6or7 at the time it was like 10 or more years ago and the kid i experimented with was like 8or9 only like 2 years older than i am and i havent done anything since than nothings been in there fingers or nothing and i want to know can i still consider myself a virgin it happened so long ago and do you think that ill be tight still i dont even remeber if it fully went in or not i mean he was only like 9 how big can it be so will i still be tight like a virgin please help and i just want to know am i or not and will i be tight will the guys suspect please help will the guys be able to tell
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Well, the answer of whether or not you can consider yourself a virgin is an interesting one. You can and should consider yourself a virgin if you feel you have honestly never had sexual intercourse with another person. Some people think that technically, lesbians who have not been with men are virgins. I think they are not. I think the term 'virgin' is sort of silly, since it means different things to different people. However, what happened when you were younger was more like sexual acting out. You did not know what you were doing at the time and likely had no sexual feelings, you were just trying out the anatomy. I don't even know whether this was or could have been consensual, however, I would not consider it sex. It may have been sexual abuse or acting out.
I think you will be tight and I don't think that guys will be able to tell. If the one you choose as your first real sexual partner says anything about the lack of blood on the sheets, because you could have broken your hymen during the acts with the boy or during any of several other possible activities, you can simply tell him that many virgins do not have intact hymens due to tampon usage, horseback riding, rough play, etc. I would simply pretend that I were a virgin without a doubt. He probably won't even bring it up. And you may have an intact hymen. Who knows? You may bleed.
So I guess the short answer is that I think you are a virgin still and I don't think anyone will be able to tell otherwise. Don't allow them to think there's any reason for doubt and you will likely never be questioned about it.
Sabine
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great advice the best advice i got so far highly reccommend
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