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Xenolan
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well... i moved away from this guy that i was for sure i really like, jake. we was really good friends and such, but now that i'm away, he has been telling me his feelings for me ( good ). i'm starting to like him more and more everyday. and well... now that i am away, why is he telling me this? i wanna be with him, but i'm about and hour and a half away. i'm moving back up there this june. we talked about bbeing together, but i don't wanna wait till june. cuz really, thats along time away. there are guys up here that like me, and some nice and some rude. but i don't want them i want jake.
1) should i wait around till june for jake?
2) how can i tell jake how i really feel about him?
3) what if i date jaek while i am still away, and he cheats on me?
4) why is he just now telling me his feelings? (link)
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Um, June 1st is just about 2 1/2 weeks away. If he's kept these feelings for you for so long, I would think you can maintain your professed affection for Jake for at least 2 1/2 weeks. Even if you're moving at the end of June, it's got to be under 6 weeks, right?
1) Yes, wait. You say you want him, then wait for him. It's not that long.
2) Jake already told you how he felt about you. He did the hard part. Now what you have to do is say, "Jake, I like you, too. I like the way you talk to me, the way you mow the lawn, your gorgeous green eyes, etc." or whatever it is you really like about him. Take a risk, hon. It's a pretty safe bet that whatever you say, Jake's going to like it and feel the same way.
3) What if? Does Jake give you any reason to think he's going to cheat on you? Is there any reason to think that if you're there he'll be less likely to cheat on you?
4) You can ask Jake what make him tell you his feelings. It could be that he started feeling them long ago and was too inexperienced to know what to do about it. It could be that absence made his heart grow fonder, to paraphrase Shakespeare. It could be that he has grown to like you romantically over some time.
I really think you should either just go for it and tell him you want to date him (though what does that mean when you're so far apart) or tell him that you would like him to wait for you to get back to his town so you can date. When I tell someone I care about him or her, though, I really like to hear it back. I bet Jake will be very happy to hear you return his feelings.
Sabine
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thanks :) that was good. i think i`ll take it. but i`m scared that he would cheat, because he has alot of girls that are friends. i think i`m going to tell him how i feel, and see what happens. but if he is wanting a relationship then im going to have to wait so i can keep track of him myself. :) thanks sweetie
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