Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Broke up on April 23, 2007
Relationship lasted for 3 months (since January 16, 2007)
He began not acting like a boyfriend as in not walking with me, hardly talking to me, over all he ignored me.
His reason for breaking up: Computers && Videogames [WTF?!?!?!!?!?]
Now me, i took our relationship too seriously and unfortunately i really fell for him even though my friends warned me not to take it too seriously cause he's like a kid you know into video games and stuff .. not all that mature yet.
My problem is that i can't get over him. Worst part, we're in the same class so i have to see him everyday. I also get a feeling that i might be able to get over him but i just choose not to.
Help me please! Thanks! =] (link)
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Hey!
Well you've come to the right place, I'm the expert on getting over guys.
well, first of all, theres always the chance you're right. You may not want to get over him yet, but that will come with time. Getting over someone is a process, it takes a long time, but you just have to take the steps, and our first goal is to get you to a point where you can be in the same room as him and not feel so bad
So the first thing to do is decide why you cant get over him, do you think there is any chance you would want to get back with him. If there is, then you never will get over him. You cant get over him until you know theres nothing stopping you.
Then get involved in something else. Find a new sport or volunteer somewhere, this will help you to get involved and find something to mark your achevement, watch yourself grow and change to a point where you can look back onto this situation and realize that you're better than him, and you don't need him anymore.
Then make a day for you and your friends, and try and do something different each week, make it places where you definitely wont find your boyfriend that way theres no chance of running into him.
Then make a me day. Do things that relax you and help you to concentrate on your needs.
Find things that you couldnt do with him and do them.
Set a range of goals to better yourself, and whenever you complete one, knwo that you are growing into a better person, and reward yourself for it.
Those all might not seem liek they are going to help, but they will, they get you changing into a better person, and this experience can go from one you remember as something that makes you feel horrible to something that you can attribute to all these good things.
The next step is moving on. Now you probably arent ready for a new boyfriend, and you'll know when you are, so for right now, you just need to find a new relationship with a guy. Find a friend in a guy. A new friendship, or an old one that just needs to be worked on. This will help you to remember that all guys arent pigs.
Then find a guy you want more with. Maybe it's the guy who sits beside you in science class, and just think about him. Develop a crush. And then when you want to move on, you've got an awesome chance. (don't pick someone who you would never go out with, or has a girlfriend. Thats just trouble).
Amd in class with your ex, try and find other things to concentrate on, like oh I dunno, the teacher (:P).
One day, you will have to talk to him about this situation, but theres no point in trying to talk to him now. A lot of people make the mistake of talking to their exs on a regular basis, trying to make it not seem weird, but it is weird. Theres no point avoiding it. It's a strange situation. And it wil be awkward, but for a bit it just has to be like that.
That should get you started, if those tips don't work, and you've given them all a chance, let me know, I've got more and I don't mind helping you out. Love ya and good luck,
Angie91
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you're the life boat of my life ... man you're a life saver!!!!!!! that's an awesomeeee advice!! thank you sooo muchhhhh!!!!!!! Yeah i guess i'll just concentrate on something else and besides i gotta catch up on my schoolwork lol ... thanks again =]
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