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Okay, so I've been wondering about something & I wanted to hear you guys opinions.

My boyfriend & I have been together for five years & we are both twenty one. I love him, I'm in love with him & there is no one else I'd rather be with. We're still young so we don't really talk about marriage but here & there we do say things like "when we get married..." & stuff like that. The other day when we were together we were talking about weddings & how my culture's weddings differ from his & he said he'd want to get married at a court house because it doesn't cost a lot. Then he said or he'd want to get married on an island & only our close relatives would be invited, like his mom & my mom. I know I want to marry him in the future & I've never straight up asked him "do you wanna marry me" but I think, well, if he's been in a relationship this long with me doesn't that obviously mean something? Like apparently he wants a future with me if he's been by my side for five years now? But then again I think, just because we've been together for so long doesn't mean marriage is definite, you know?

So my question is, do you guys think that when a couple has been together for so long that it means marriage is in the future? Are people in long relationships because they want to get married eventually? Ugh, in my head I know what I'm trying to ask but I can't seem to get it out the way I want it to but I guess these questions will do. Haha. Thanks for reading this & all opinions are appreciated!

Heyy thats a really long time..and yes i think there is a good chance marriage with him is in your future. some People date for a verrry long time before getting married. my parents dated for seven years, i have an aunt who has been with the same guy for maybe 5 years, i have a friend whos parents just got married after 13 years of being together..so it varies on the future plans, if you both truly feel you are right for each other,
this guy is sticking around for a longg time..and its not like he doesnt want a commitment,..because you two have been together for so long..so dont worry..hes been around for a verry long time..i dotn see him going anywhere anytime soon. and after being together 5 years, i would say marriage is very possible.

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