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Okay well my boyfriend and I had plans for today to get together so he could meet my cousin. Instead he gets drunk, calls me telling me that he can't come over but he wants me at his friends house to hang out at a party with him, then proceeds to tell me that I cannot bring my cousin who I never see. When I tell him no I can't just leave my cousin here he goes on saying oh well there are plenty of hott girls here who want to take their clothes off. Then I just tell him I was hanging up and he didn't even say just kidding or try to stop me he simply says k bye. That really got to me and I messaged him on myspace saying how he treated me was really wrong. He just replied back by saying soooo many b**ches so little time then he says where is the ky (as in the lubricant) G** Da** it.

So what I want to know is how do I let him know what he is doing to me is making me have suicidal thoughts. He really is a great boyfriend when he isn't drunk so I don't plan on breaking up with him. But how do I just let him know what he does hurts me.

No one deserves that & I can't understand why any girl allows that kind of behavior in their relationship. Drunk or not, no boyfriend should ever threaten to sleep with other girls. If he cared about your relationship or knew he was going to act like that, he should either watch his drinks or not drink at all. It's really sad to see guys act like that & their girlfriends actually defend their abusive behavior. It probably contributes to why guys are the way they are these days. Instead of sitting here & actually admitting to everyone "I'm not breaking up with him. I'm going to let him walk all over me", why not look for someone better? Be a smart woman to put your foot down & say "I will not let you treat me this way, goodbye." By sticking around, you're only showing him that what he did was "okay" & giving him more power to control you. If you leave now, I can guarantee you are saving yourself from a possible abusive relationship with this guy. I am not here to put you down, I am here telling you what I wish I could have done when I was in your similar position. I am here to tell you that you are MUCH better than that & you need to get out now. There are plenty of guys out there who would treat you so much better. Yes, guys make mistakes, but this is by no means acceptable.

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(Rating: 4) i agree with everything you said but what i think he was doing is just saying that so he could get me over there. i talked to him about it and i am only giving him 1 chance so if he even tries to do it again he is gone.

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