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I, 16/m, should probably tell you now I'm gay or you lose the entire premise of this. okay, so It was New Year's Eve and I called one of my friends (we'll call him Jake for further analysis.) Jake, 14/m, and we started talking. Jake's an eighth grader and I'm a high school sophmore. So I told him that I liked him on New Year's, thinking that he didnt like me back. Well, he did. So we dated for the next week and then I answered the phone and he told me, "your not gonna like this," and I mean, I got pretty scared. Well, then he said, "I gotta go, I'll ttyl," and then right before he hung up, he goes, "I'm straight."

So Im thinking okay, I need to talk to him and see if our friendship is still okay. So I call him back a day later and I told him I'd like to talk about it, and he says, "I dont have any thing else to say." and I got pissed and hung up.
Plus Jake's older brother is a Senior at my school and really popular in the theater dept. like I hope to be. So I got really scared that his brother might find out and just told a few of my friends.

Well, literally, two months passed without me seeing him, and then I went to my schools spring musical and he was there I talked to him during intermission and he still said he didnt know his sexuality. I told him that I thought I deserved an explanation. He said I did, but someone interupted us, and I never got one.

Right as we were going back to our seats I told him that I was over him and that I wanted him out of my life.

I cried through the entire second act, as I was driven home, as I went to sleep, and two days later.

I dont know what to do. I don't want to love him, and he doesnt deserve it, but I do. Please help me. What should I do?

there's only one way you can really get over him, you did a good thing when you told him that you dont't want him in your life anymore but you just have to stand by this decision erase or get rid of everything that reminds you of him... fir example his number if its in your phone or written down somewhere, block his s/n just get rid of him. try to not even think about him apparently hes not worth it... you should find someone who treats you right and don't waste your time worrying about him. this might take alittle time but eventually you will be over him...just try to not even think about him..hope i helped!

-katie

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(Rating: 5) thanks so much, most people just say suck it up, I really admire and appreciate your honesty.
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