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Okay I have an ex boyfriend that won't get the hint that I am in a loving relationship., well today he decided to call me and was mad because I might be pregnant. Well anyways he told me that he still wants to be friends and everything he just didn't want me to tell him about me and my boyfriend. Which it's hard to do, because I love him so much. But what really upsets me is that we were supposed to be friends, when he just told me tonight he doesn't care what I do, but that he still loves and misses me and wished he could have me back, what am I supposed to do? Keep being friends with him, or tell him where to get off at????
With a rather clingy ex-boyfriend, you have to make a simple choice. The decision is between whether or not you still want this guy in your life.
If you do, there's no definite way to make him "back off" and still be friends. You just need to keep going on your way and doing your own thing regardless of what he says or does. If you are in another relationship now, it'd probably be best if you stopped taking his calls for a while to cut down on contact.
My suggestion is just to get rid of him. Sure, it's good for your self-esteem to have a guy around who is practically obsessed, but then there are plenty of downsides. Not only is it ridiculously awkward, it can cause complications if your current boyfriend is a bit insecure. This guy has his own set of problems that he needs to deal with. You broke up with him and he just can't deal with it. Not only does he lack the drive to be his own man, he can't even contain himself. This guy is a wreck. It's best for both of you to just stop talking for a two or three weeks, maybe even a month. Not only does this give you time to settle down and get your ducks in a line, it gives him a chance to get his act together and finally pick himself up off the ground.
I know you have your misgivings about just getting rid of him, but stringing him along is just plain cruel. You can have nothing good out of a friendship like this, just drama and problems that you don't have to deal with. Just go your separate ways. Things will work out in the end, but you have to give it time.
Keep your head straight, and you'll be fine.
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You know honestly this is the best advice I've ever had. And thank you very much for it. I agree, the less I talk to him the better my now relationship will be. Thanx again
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