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Missa8305
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Okay well me & this guy are best friends and we really love each other a lot {but just as friends not bf gf}. and he told me today that i make him feel like shit. So 2nite on the fone he said its the way i always turn everything good in his life negative, and i think im just telling the truth. We both know that i don't have the will to try for anything, I have never had the will to try, so he won't believe me when I said I'm gonna rly try not to be so negative. Also tonight on the phone i asked him if I was a horrible person for doing this to him and he said I'm not gonna lie and didnt answer... and when he finally did answer he said im rly tired and I need to go to bed. So i dont kno if he was jus ttoo tired or if im a horrible person! Please please help me!!! he's my wprld and idk how to get him to trust that i'll try!!! help this heartache is killing me!!! (link)
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I dont think you are a horrible person, he went a bit overboard about that. But it is obviously bothering him. I'm not really sure what exactly you are saying to him to make him feel like this, but I'll give you an example. If he says something like he is going away for the summer. Although it would be crappy for you, make it sound like you are excited and happy for him. That's just a vague example. Try to think of him more. That's not horrible, its actually human nature. But it does get annoying. Sometimes people need to give white lies to make people feel better or whatever. You say that you think you are just telling the truth, but sometimes the truth hurts, and you might have to pick your battles. Sorry to be kind of blunt, but i hope i gave you a couple ideas on how to help.
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thnk you for being blunt. u made me realize i dont need to tell the truth about everything he says, and now everything is perfect and we're tighter than ever!!!
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