Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
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I know it's long but PLEASE help!
Okay so i'm always there for my friends. Even if they're against each other. My friend Sarah doesn't love her b/f anymore and he knows that she likes this other boy. [The boys hate each other] and i'm there for her because she is confused and doesn't know what to do. She is 13 turning 14 and he is 14 turning 15. They have been together for a year. On and off and on and off. But now she doesn't love him anymore. Drove him home tonight, told him not to do anything stupid and hes liek why what does it matter. I gave him my number and told him to call me later. I got home and he called me. I told him don't do anything stupid she still does care for him. And hes like no she doesnt shes gonna break up wtih me for him. I was like but if you do something stupid then she'll feel guilty and I care and I dont want to lose another friend. He doesnt think she cares. And I know that she was his life. And the bad thing out of all this.
I kinda like him, I feel terrible because I know he doesn't like me, maybe as a friend but I think thats all...
I'm trying to help them both. Its so crazy...
any help ? (link)
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Hey!
Well you're in a sticky situation, but it's okay. Honestly, it would have been better if you hadnt gotten involved, but A) sometimes that isnt a choice, and B) sometimes you can't help it (I'm totally guilty of that like 24/7 lol)
So what do you do? WEll I think you should talk to him and see what he really wants to do. Like is this going to hurt him bad or is it just going leave a dent. Depending on that you can give him some advice. He knows the enevitable, so he should step up and do it himself. IF she still wants to have a friendship or at least end it on good terms then he should break up with her now. Theres no point in staying with her, and it's your job to help him see that. Your friend will hopefully understand. If this is a super big deal, then you have to be there for him and give him some moving on techniques, and show him how to get over her. If you want some help with that let me know (I'm the queen of moving on tips).
Then for your feelings for him. Don't feel bad about having them, but you will have to keep them quiet for a little while. Just be calm and collected about it and be there for him. Eventually you can talk to him and tell him how you feel but for right now, just try to help him thrugh this. He wont be looking for another girlfriend at the moment, so theres no point in going out there and making things awkward right?
As far as your friend, well you need to talk to her, and even if she doesnt want to break up with him, one of them has to end it now, theres no point in them staying together and going through hurt again and again everytime they get together and break up again. They're young, they can find other people don't worry. You need to be there for both of them, and if you feel like they need to talk let them, but if they cross the line and start talking about the other person in your presence, tell them that you are uncomfortable, and that they should write their feelings down instead.
Other than that there isnt much you can do just yet. Keep your eyes open and watch how they are responding and then try to let them work it out as much as they can themselves with minimal infulence yourself. If you need anything else let me know!Hope I helpped, good luck, Love ya,
Angie91
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