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I am divorced. We have 3 kids together ages 10,9,7... my son is the 7 year old. He comes home upset from visiting his father every time.He has been living with this boy who is 6 for a year, His mother has 5 kids by 4 different fathers and 2 are serving life in prison. one is (the boys) father. He is going to marry the boys mom in july and adopt him. This would be fine if he was a fit father but he is not.She is also a convicted felon.who only has custody of 1 of her 5 children. I am a suburban mom who makes a pretty good living, and gives my kids a good life, by the way he has also been convicted of domestic violence on our daughter. Should I keep my kids out of their home?? Its becomeing ever so bizarre.My son comes home cryin g because this new kid call his dad daddy, he feels like he has been replaced. His girlfriend told my son something about a month ago that set me off, they were spending the weekend with dad and girlfriend and my son asked when he was gonna see mommy and the crazy girl told him "mommy is dead i killed her", my girls said this was said..she has threatened to kill me through relatives, she is not all there. What do I do?By the way my ex and this woman were having affairs throughout our ten year marriage. This is not a stable environment for my kids, I am in a great relationship now and I might want to fight for sole custody and move away..Any advice??
WOW! This is not a good lifestyle you or for any of those children. If I were you I would fight for sole custody and NEVER EVER let the children see their fathers or anybody related to them. I know that the children are going to grow up sad but just tell them "everything happens for a reason."
As for moving...GREAT IDEA. I think it is a great idea because those people who threatened to kill you may become mad at you and may do as they said. If I were you, I would get a nice home VERY FAR AWAY and change my first and last name.
You also should put the people that threatened you on restraining order. That way, if they come even one foot close to you, you can send them to jail for life.
In order to find evidence ALWAYS carry a recorder with you. [maybe put it in your bra or such] and record all the things that go on. You can also get a video camera to record their lifestyle.
Your children may grow up a little depressed because they don't have a father, but just tell them "why would i want a husband when i got you?" And try not to tell them about the other side of the family. If your children say "is it our fault you and daddy aren't together" you should always say no because I know for a fact that if you say yes, it always leads to suicide for the children.
[I may not know much because i'm only 14 but please just think what is best for the children]
(Rating: 4) we bought a new home and are moving into it next month. My ex doesnt know the address and i dont want to tell him, I think i will keep the kids away from him then, i think he will get the idea.Thanks for your advice.You are a nice young person.. I am 29 and idont think i knew as much as you do at 14.Bye