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i have a really immature and pathetic problem thats made up of a few little problems. but it's REALLY bothering me and stressing me out.

this part isnt really a problem; two days ago the most amazing, sweetest thing happened to me. "matt" is my best friend. he means everything to me. i am so comfortable with him, can be myself around him, can tell him anything, and our relationship is so important to me. it's so hard to do that with anyone else because i'm kind of shy and insecure. but matt gives me butterflies

First off. Your friends' stupid behavior is NOT your fault. It comes from their own selfishness and jealousy and the fact that matt chose you over them.
1) You are not a selfish bitch.
2) Don't blame yourself for their actions.

While there are the terms "bros before hoes" or "chicks before d*cks", it's not always the case. If your two 'best friends' decide to hate you and treat you horribly just because the guy they like in turn likes you... don't bother being friends with them anymore. Real friends WOULD support you and be willing to let go of their feelings (as hard as it may be) so that you can be happy. I mean, shoving you in the hallways and talking trash about you...? What kind of friends are those? They don't care that they're hurting you and they're acting like total bxtches. My advice is to let them go and make new, better friends.

Now to address your third problem. Cutting themselves over this? How immature can they get? While I may sound totally offensive in saying this.. cutting yourself because some guy chooses your friend over you is so overrated. It's not something that depressing and worth cutting yourself over. Have your mom call their parents. They may hate you even more for it, but it's for their own safety and health. While it is the answer for stupid things to do while being depressed, cutting is not the answer for heartbreak or 'release from problems'.

Don't feel guilty or selfish. Don't feel bad. it's their own stupid problem and it has nothing to do with you. So find new friends, have fun with Matt, and have a happy life. Friends who hate friends for getting the attention of the boy they like aren't people worth being friends with. I hope you have an amazing time with Matt and find friends who actually love you and stand by you no matter what. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to leave me a message (:

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much, your advice was great and it really helped me. i'm so glad you answered...once again thank you!!=]
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