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16/f the problem is everytime i look at my boyfriend i smile. there is no whipping the smile off my face. i went to talk to him abuot something important today that has been bothering me.. that things weren't the way it used to be.. every since the third time we had sex.. he just doesn't call me as much and we don't talk as much... i said to him 'sometimes i just wish you would call me just to say hi' and i smiled. i told him i was trying to be serious.. but i couldn't help but smile. i asked him if he still wanted to be together and he said 'i guess' wtf? i think he was just nervious because he thought i was going to dump him or somethingg

so i guess my question is.. i am in love with him no doubt about it.. i want everything to work out but he never thinks i'm serious (he did realize i was serious today though when i looked at him) but whenever we talk i always forget what i really wanted to say and what was bothering me. so how can i better my relationship? (i never told him i loved him because i kno it will push him away)

alsooo. he has a lifetime grudge against the female race. we never faught but he doens't treat me like his girlfriend unless it's just us. =/

You are his girlfriend..therefore you desserve to be treated like it! It s definately normal for things not to be they way they used to be in the beginning..but to a certain extent. After a longgg time being with someone..its normal not to be constantly making out etc...but you arent happy right now..and he needs to hear this seriously. Either talk to him seriously..write him a letter..talk throouggh AIM...or the phone..any way it takes but definately talk to him. I know its going to hurt but ask if he wants to take a break..or totally break up..he might say he wants to..i know it would really hurt ..but you have to have an answer about whats ggoing on.
You say he only treats youu like his gf when its just you two..do you mean all the sweet cuddly stuff and kisses or whatever only goes on in private? If thats the casse dont worry.. a lot of people are like that. My bf and i have been together for a long time..we have been through a lot of stuff..and we dont show public displays of affection..and we are totally fine..so maybe he jsut wants a little space.
Just definately talk to himm! I hope i helped..let me know how it goes
-melissa

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