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i'm 15 and my boyfriend is 16. we've been going out for a year, tomorrow. is it wrong that i don't love him? i know that i don't. i like him, but i honestly don't love him. i know that he isn't 'the one' and i don't want to have sex with him at all, or any time soon. all of the poeple my age that have been going out for over 6 month are always together and claim that they love eachother. i don't. is it wrong, am i being a bitch? should i even bother with him, am i supposed to love him?

As long as he knows the truth & is fine with it, there's nothing wrong with having a relationship with someone you aren't head over heels for. On the other hand, if you are telling or leading him onto believe that you love him, then that would be wrong. Sometimes it takes a longer time to completely FALL for someone. Plus, you are only 15, so it's okay to take things slow for now & not jump onto the love wagon. My suggestion: if you don't see yourself ever learning to love him in the future, then don't waste either of your time. Eventually, he's going to get his feelings hurt if he tells you he loves you & you can't say anything back. If you see any hope for the future, have a talk with him. Tell him that although you have been going out for a long time, you aren't ready for it to become "serious." Explain your situation & hopefully he'll understand. Communication is important in the relationship.

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