Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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there is this guy that i really really have feelings for and i think he knew that before..he told me he liked me too but nothing really came of it, he went out with other girls while he was saying this to me so i was like you obviously dont like me then because your going out with girls and hes like i just went out with them because i thought you liked other guys. anyways one night he got really mad FOR NO REASON i did nothing wrong to him and he said he never liked me, didnt ever want to talk to me so then i try talking to him, making things better because i know i couldnt handle him being mad at me but that didnt help he was still like dont effing talk to me and i was like alright whatever...now he has a girlfriend (everyone thinks he can do much better than her) and he likes her though and i think he forgot about me, and now that he has forgotten about me i cant stop thinking about him, thats how it works though right? =( if i try talking to him he will just say the same crap, why are you talking to me and then i will feel stupid and he will tell his friends and it will not be good..ive tried many many times to forget about him because it seems like he has to me but im not positive. my cousin (shes like my best friend) talks to him still and i just wish we could all hangout like we use to. i MISS him but it seems like i cant even do anything about it..he goes to a different school which doesnt help but im just so lost please dont say get over him..its NOT easy because ive tried trust me. im so jealous though that he has a girlfriend but some people say he was mad at me because he liked me sooo much. after his first girl that he was with he was texting me saying when me and her break up i wanna go out with you ok but i didnt say anything back and we would text and talk to each other late at night and i would be like ohh I LOVEYOU! and people were like he likes you soo much he will do anything for you but now it seems like things have changed and im thinking or maybe im just hoping he is trying to make me jealous and if we started talking again i have a feeling we would "have a thing" again but i just dont know..
any suggestions?
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Hey,
Well, theres lots we can do, so don't worry okay, you'll get through this. Kay, so first thing that happend was that you put yourself out there, and showed him how you felt, but some sort of miscommunication happend, and that made him explode and then everything got messed up. So in order to get over this eventually you will have to talk to him about it. But not right now. In fact, I wouldn't talk about it at all. Don't talk about him to your friends, don't talk to him, and especially, do not get/let your friends talk to him about you. That would be the worst thing. Obviously for some reason he wants some space, probably what happend is he either heard a rumour, or something else that made him upset and turned away from you. So he's shouting out that he doesnt want you around, so don't be around. If you know he's going to be soemwhere dont go. I know you're probably thinking isnt that the total oppostie of what I should do in order to move on, But you have to move on first, then move on to a stage where its okay to be around him all the time. So you said that going to different school is a disadvantage? Well maybe in some views it is, but think of how much easier it wil be to move on (now I know you said you've tried moving on, and you don't want to move on, don't worry, I'll get to that) you wont have to see him every day, you wont have to worry about running into him in the halls. He's in a totally different universe. One that you don't have to even think about it. You don't think about mars every day right? So why would you think about him (l ol that was a joke. Not a very good one I might add)
So yeah moving on. That sucks. And everyones always like what do I do, I've tried to move on, it's impossible. It's not impossible, it just takes some key ingredients. Some talent, some fun, some me time, some friends, some confrontation, some nights spent crying your eyes out. Some paper Some other hot guys. So lets start with talent, you have to find something that you're good at, say its painting, then spend some of your free time doing that. And every saturday afternoon, when you're sitting aroung thinking about him, paint a picture. now if you're like me and painting is like totally the most tedious task ever and theres no way you could even find a paint brush in your house, then don't paint, find something that calms you down and helps you to relieve your tension. Kay, so fun that has alittle to do with the last one, but you also have to find some fun in a sport, or other activity that involves interacting with others, here are some of the usual suggestions: clubs, volunteering, work, sports. Pick something thats awesome and gets you to try new things and meet new people. Me time, Kay well when youre sitting at home, and you cant stop thinking about him, grab some candles and take a bubble bath, paint your toenails. Listen to your fave, calming music. Watch a funny movie, and just do what makes you happy. Friends is obvious, hang out as much as possible with your friends to keep your mind off of it. Then confrontation I talked about that a bit already try and talk to him about eventually, not today or tomorrow, but someday when you're on speaking terms tell him how you felt and what made you upset. Crying your eyes out, thats something that will happen, once you start to realize you cant be with him, actaully it probably already has happened. But remember thats always okay. Now for the paper, you should be keeping a diary, it helps you work through things thta are really hard to get thorugh, and helps you realize your mistakes, so try and concider doing that, and lastly hot guys. Now I'm not suggesting jumping out and making out with the next guy you see, but you need to get over this guy, and thaty involves picking a new fixation, pick a guy in every class at school, it doesnt have to be someone you'd go out with, just someone cute and nice to look at, then think about him, every time you would think about the other guy. And if you think you're about to think about him, then try and find another thing about the guys you pick to think about.
Those are just a few tips for moving on. and there are alot more, and if you need them let me now, I've got hundreds.
You know some of te stuff up there makes it seem liek you want to go out with him still, and I totally get that, but if I were you I;d really try to move on. I hope I helpped, or at least answered your question. Please don't hesitate to ask if you need more help, or if moving on isnt the answer for you, I might be able to help you with that too. Love ya lots,
Angie91
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thank you so much! i wish i could move on but i want to be with him too. i've actually done some of the stuff you said but i'll try the rest =)
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