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okay so Friday i got my first period and i didnt go to school. its really gross because its like a REALLY heavy flow and it is just so gross. i have pads like carefree original.. but i dont like them. i mean they dont work well and i keep getting stains and its so gross. i dont like the brand im using and find it so gross about like the flow and everything. and im so worried like i have school on monday and this is my first period. like what the heck am i suppose to do? like .. wear am i suppose to put the pad and stuff. i dont even want to use a pad but like i guess im kind of embarresed to ask my mom to go get me tampons. and even if i DID have tampons to try like firstly, i would have no idea what to do like to get them in and like when to change them ect. AND like what brand would be good because i have like sports and crap. this is so overwelming for me because its my first time. and ALSO i hate the feeling i have like when like theres a flow because i just like feel so dirty (and since i have been grounded for like a week i've been home alot) and i just like take a bath and stuff and i feel clean. like this whole thing is just ew.
any advice??
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Welcome to the life of being a woman. :) I know it feels disgusting, but just wash yourself as often as you can. Working your period into your school at first is a bit overwhelming. First off, if you want to use tampons (which I highly recommend, they're so much "cleaner" & easier), talk to your mom. You shouldn't feel embarassed to ask to buy tampons because every woman gets their period & needs them. It's completely natural & I highly doubt your mother will make a big deal about it. Since you mentioned you play sports, you can get the Playtex Sports tampons designed for women who obviously play sports & need more protection. If not that, I'd suggest Tampax Pearl. Eventually, you'll learn to know more about your period & how often you'll need to change your pad/tampon. If your period is somewhat heavy, I'd suggest changing after couple-few hours. For lighter days, you can go for a little longer. If you decide to use tampons & your period is pretty heavy to the point where you're scare of leaks, use a pantyliner as well. But if you're absolutely set on the idea of sticking with pads (which are more "dirtier" & gross in my opinion), stick with an overnight pad for heavy days. I'd suggest carrying a purse or even a makeup bag with some tampons/pads to change in between classes. If you don't want to carry a purse & don't have anywhere else to put them in, just leave them in your locker & slip one in your pocket before heading to the restroom. Just read the tampon box for instructions. I know at first it seems difficult, but with a couple attempts, you'll have it down in no time. Good luck! :)

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