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15/f

Alright, so in the middle of summer, I started going out with my brother's best friend Dean. I've known him and his twin brother Ross since I was a very little girl.

We went out for over a month a a half and during that month and a half, it was the first time I've been happy(I come from abuse, rape, etc.) But for two weeks, he didn't talk to me, or visit me, or anything. He had football practice everyday for three hours during the afternoon, and he just blew me off, but since I was so happy with him, I didn't ask about it.

The day after we started talking again, we hung out and ended up sleeping together. Then that Saturday, five days later, he broke up with me, claiming he needed to focus on school. But I found out, that he used me. He said this "den we got the dark haired freshman i did shit wit her den after that every thing got all weird and i ended it and she knew about the last 2 relationships and idk if i really loved her now that i look back on it. she could have been a rebound girl and i didnt even relize it which makes me feel bad cuz i dont want to have rebound girls anddat means i used which is REALLY bad." Then he went out with my best friend Marcy and planned on using her for sex as well, but she found out and dumped him. And he lead me on for over a month.

I talk to him on and off. It's hard for me not to. I hate him for the crap he's put me through. And we get into a lot of fights. His twin brother told me not to talk to him because he'll just hurt me again. We got into an argument last night and aren't talking because he took my mp3 player and refused to give it back. I got it back today and there were voice recordings on it the first one was "Kaylee is a whoreeee" and the second one I couldn't understand and the third one he was just rambling on.

Now before I ask this, even though he put me through hell, he's helped me a lot too. There's a lot of crap going on and he always helps me and gives me the perfect advice. What I'm saying is, he's a good friend to a certain extent, just horrible at love and crap. He helped me through a lot of crap that he did keep to himself. But at the same time, he took my virginity and used me for sex. Should I continue being friends with him or is he even worth it?

He doesn't seem like an OK guy. If you really really want to be friends with him, then I guess you should be. But don't get romantically involved with him again. He hurts girls for wrong reasons and uses them for sex? That's not OK. I personally don't think he's worth it. Fighting is apart of any relationship, but if you do it a lot, then there is a problem. I'm really sorry this happened to you.

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(Rating: 5) Thank you soooo much. This really helped me out a lot.
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